I came across a sadly interesting conversation online last week. Someone asked if people remembered their pre-Migraine lives. The reason I say "sadly" is that so many of the people participating in the conversation are having problems with wanting their pre-Migraine lives back.
My Migraines began when I was so young that I really don't remember a time when Migraine wasn't part of my life. I do, however, remember before they became chronic the first time. Since then, I've gone back and forth between chronic and episodic Migraine because of preventive medications losing their effectiveness or having to reduce their dosage because of other health issues.
So, would I want my pre-chronic-Migraine life back? Certainly I would, but that's just not going to happen. There may be a cure for Migraine disease sometime in the future, but I don't think it will happen during my lifetime.
Why torture myself wishing for something I can't have? If I spent my time wishing to return to that part of my life, I wouldn't really live, would I? Here's the thing — It's one thing to wish for something we can attain. Wishes of that kind can be healthy aspirations that help us keep pushing forward. It's quite another thing to wish for something that can't happen. Wishes of that kind can lead to frustration and despair.
I mourned and grieved for my old life years ago. It's "normal" and healthy do grieve a part of life that we can't get back. What I want now is to get as much out of life as I can, to live it as fully and as well as I can.
Writing this post has brought me to realize, at least partially, why I recently started a new blog and site, www.Migraine.Ninja.
I'm drawing on my inner ninja to live the life I want. Migraine cost me my job and some relationships, but in the end, I gained a great deal as well. I have a job writing content about Migraine to help other people with Migraine. Many volunteer opportunities have come my way to advocate for myself and all of us with Migraine and other headache disorders.
I've found a wonderful Migraine specialist to partner with. Right now, my Migraines are very well managed and back to episodic. There may come a time when my current treatment becomes less effective for me, but worrying about that now won't accomplish anything positive. It would just steal good days from me. So, I'll worry about that when it happens, but even then, I know my doctor and I will work together to find another effective treatment.
What about you? Are you stuck wishing to go back to your pre-Migraine life, or have you moved on to live your life as fully and well as you can?
because a migraine is NOT "just a headache"