The approach of Mother's Day is always a thoughtful time for me, but not so much in the "traditional" way. Maybe it's because I prefer verbs to nouns, actions to things...
The definition of mothering doesn't necessarily involve giving birth. More accurately, mothering means attending to the needs and comforts of someone. In today's society, one role of a mother that has become less prominent is that of family healer. In times past, when doctors were few and far between, it was part of the mother's role to tend to the health of her family. Women knew about herbs and used them to care for people. They knew first aid, basic injury care. They knew how to take care of a fevered child and help another woman through childbirth. If you watch older movies, you'll often see the wife of a rancher called to care for a ranch hand who's been injured or a woman on a neighboring ranch who's about to give birth.
Now that doctors are plentiful in "developed countries," these duties no longer fall to women. Yet, it's usually the woman in the family who makes the doctor's appointments and comforts family members when they're hurt or ill. It's usually "Mommy" young children run to when they have a boo-boo.
To me, there's yet another side of "mothering," and it's something we need to do for ourselves. It's tending to our own emotional and spiritual health. With different belief systems, there's no right way to do this, but taking time out for our own needs allows us to be healthier, stronger, and more complete. It allows us to be in better shape for everything we do, including tending to the needs of others.
So, whether you're a mother in the sense of having given birth or not, please consider giving yourself a priceless Mother's Day gift, a gift of time to attend to your own needs and comforts. Set aside at least 30 minutes every day that's your time, totally uninterrupted, for whatever use you want. It can be prayer, meditation, a bubble bath. Be good to yourself. We all deserve as much.