Good morning, all. It's Sunday again, and once again, a Migraine is kicking my behind. Grrrrrrrrrrrr. Still, I'm observing my Sunday routine of taking time for reflection and applying some of my more spiritual thoughts to my world.
It seems that 2012 is off to a rocky start for quite a few of the people I know who have Migraine and other headache disorders. The constantly changing temperatures in parts of the country are a big Migraine trigger for some, and some are feeling the stigma of Migraine diease even more strongly than ever.
Migraine is often referred to as an "invisible illness." There are no visible cuts or bruises, no casts on arms or legs. Many of us look perfectly "normal" to other people, even when we have a raging Migraine. So often, people just can't understand when we can't do things with them, when the perfume they wear in the office triggers a Migraine and sends us running to the restroom. They don't understand that over-the-counter products such as Tylenol, Advil, and Excedrin Migraine are about as effective for many of us as swallowing a couple of breath mints.
Even among Migraineurs, there is often a lack of understanding. Those who have a few mild Migraines a year sometimes thing that people who have Migraine daily or near daily and are totally incapacitated by them are exaggerating. They don't understand why some of us "insist upon calling these headaches a disease" or why some of us are "making such a fuss" that we're taking a petition for Congressional hearings to Congress in March.
OK. By now, you may be wondering where anything spiritual comes into this. Here it is - I think the most important thing in living a "good" life is how we treat other people. If you believe in the Bible, do you remember in the book of Matthew when Jesus is asked "What is the greatest of the commandments?" He replies:
"Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself." (Matthew 22:37-39)
If you're not into the Bible, just think of the "Golden Rule." Do unto others as you would have others do unto you."
So, to me, it all boils down to loving God and being good to the other people in our lives, and that (and probably having a Migraine) brought me to thinking about the how people with Migraine are often treated - by those who don't have Migraines and by some who do.
Then there's one of the most valuable lessons my father ever taught me - that it's not enough to talk about your principles, you have to live them too. That you teach by example. Of course, there are times when I'm better at that than others. I have to keep trying.
In the end, what I'm getting at is that before we dismiss someone's illness or that something seemingly trifling that we do could actually make them ill, let's stop and think for a moment. Give them the benefit of the doubt. If a friend or coworker has an illness, we need to not just dismiss it or them. Learn a bit about it, to be a considerate human being. And, we need to teach and lead by example. If we're more considerate of a coworker, another person may be more considerate of them, then another and another. How we treat other people makes a huge difference, not just to them, but to us as well. It feels good to be nice.
To close, here's a darling video that demonstrates this point...
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© Teri Robert, 2012
Last updated January 22, 2012.